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For Casanova, as well as his contemporary sybarites of the upper class, love and sex tended to be casual and not endowed with the seriousness characteristic of the Romanticism of the 19th century. Flirtations, bedroom games, and short-term liaisons were common among nobles who married for social connections rather than love.
Although multi-faceted and complex, Casanova's personality, as he described it, was dominated by his sensual urges: "Cultivating whatever gave pleasure to my senses was always the chief business of my life; I never found any occupation more important. Feeling that I was born for the sex opposite of mine, I have always loved it and done all that I could to make myself loved by it."
Casanova's ideal liaison had elements beyond sex, including complicated plots, heroes and villains, and gallant outcomes. In a pattern he often repeated, he would discover an attractive woman in trouble with a brutish or jealous lover (Act I); he would ameliorate her difficulty (Act II); she would show her gratitude; he would seduce her; a short exciting affair would ensue (Act III); feeling a loss of ardor or boredom setting in, he would plead his unworthiness and arrange for her marriage or pairing with a worthy man, then exit the scene (Act IV). As William Bolitho points out in Twelve Against the Gods, the secret of Casanova's success with women "had nothing more esoteric in it than [offering] what every woman who respects herself must demand: all that he had, all that he was, with (to set off the lack of legality) the dazzling attraction of the lump sum over what is more regularly doled out in a lifetime of installments."
Casanova advises, "There is no honest woman with an uncorrupted heart whom a man is not sure of conquering by dint of gratitude. It is one of the surest and shortest means." Alcohol and violence, for him, were not proper tools of seduction. Instead, attentiveness and small favors should be employed to soften a woman's heart, but "a man who makes known his love by words is a fool". Verbal communication is essential—"without speech, the pleasure of love is diminished by at least two-thirds"—but words of love must be implied, not boldly proclaimed.
Mutual consent is important, according to Casanova, but he avoided easy conquests or overly difficult situations as not suitable for his purposes. He strove to be the ideal escort in the first act—witty, charming, confidential, helpful—before moving into the bedroom in the third act. Casanova claims not to be predatory ("my guiding principle has been never to direct my attack against novices or those whose prejudices were likely to prove an obstacle"); however, his conquests did tend to be insecure or emotionally exposed women.
Casanova valued intelligence in a woman: "After all, a beautiful woman without a mind of her own leaves her lover with no resource after he had physically enjoyed her charms." His attitude towards educated women, however, was typical for his time: "In a woman learning is out of place; it compromises the essential qualities of her sex ... no scientific discoveries have been made by women ... (which) requires a vigor which the female sex cannot have. But in simple reasoning and in delicacy of feeling we must yield to women."
Casanova gambled throughout his adult life, winning and losing large sums. He was tutored by professionals, and he was "instructed in those wise maxims without which games of chance ruin those who participate in them". He was not above occasionally cheating and at times even teamed with professional gamblers for his own profit. Casanova claims that he was "relaxed and smiling when I lost, and I won without covetousness". However, when outrageously duped himself, he could act violently, sometimes calling for a duel.
 Casanova admits that he was not disciplined enough to be a professional gambler: "I had neither prudence enough to leave off when fortune was adverse, nor sufficient control over myself when I had won." Nor did he like being considered as a professional gambler: "Nothing could ever be adduced by professional gamblers that I was of their infernal clique." Although Casanova at times used gambling tactically and shrewdly—for making quick money, for flirting, making connections, acting gallantly, or proving himself a gentleman among his social superiors—his practice also could be compulsive and reckless, especially during the euphoria of a new sexual affair. "Why did I gamble when I felt the losses so keenly? What made me gamble was avarice. I loved to spend, and my heart bled when I could not do it with money won at cards."
While Luca Raimondo's Tarots of Casanova's historic reputation as a successful seducer of women is well-known, most of the images in the Casanova tarot could rightfully be described as "sensual," only about half of them could be truly described as "erotic." A lone gondola drifting in a Venetian canal against a dramatic orange sky ("Sun" card)… a cuckolding lover stealing away in the dead of night via a lowered rope ("Hanged Man" card)… a crowd of mysterious masked carnival figures intently watching a high-stakes card game by candlelight (10 of Wands)… all giving rise to feelings and sensations.
The poignant scenes tell about the many joys of sex and love secret dreams and the most unmentionable desires.
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Is it love, loyalty or is it lust? Am I imagining this or is it real? You can't believe if it is true or isn't? He is too sexy and handsome there must be someone else in his life. The emotional opportunity has brought you fear of emotional pain or doubt.
Do you have doubts about his faithfulness of your partner or potential partner? Suspect he is cheating on you? There may be some answers that may help you make sense of the situation. A reading with the Tarot of the Casanova deck will help figure out whether or not there is a betrayal. Shed light on the relationship from his perspective, not yours.
The reading should tell if he is married, in a partnership, single or tempted by another.
When you seek to understand and look deeper into the relationship you must take the good with the bad. Is it your own thoughts, emotions or actions hindering progress? Are the painful wounds caused by evil intentions of people close to you in the past causing your insecurities?
The reality is not every man is out their having affairs or want to screw you over. There are monogamous relationships - men who will keep that precious promise and not break the commitment.
Listen to what he says, BUT pay attention to his actions. The truth will be revealed to you, if he is true blue - love or the player type - lust.
Unconditional love and understanding is a choice. Let people be who they are, love them for the way they are, and know your boundaries.
LOVE IS ROOTED IN THE INTIMACY THAT FOLLOWS SEX. EMBRACE, TALK, DON'T HOLD IT IN!