Love is the ultimate answer. Love is not abstraction but an actual energy, or spectrum of energies, which you can 'create' and maintain in your being. Just be loving. Feel loving. Express your love. Love dissolves fear. You cannot be afraid when you are feeling love.
Since everything is energy, and love encompasses all energies, all is love. When you are loving and unafraid, you can forgive. You can forgive others, and you can forgive yourself. You begin to see with the proper perspective. Guilt and anger are reflection of the same fear. Guilt is the subtle anger directed inward. Forgiveness dissolves guilt and anger. They are unnecessary, damaging emotions. Forgive. This is the act of love. Accept people and situations for the way they are.
It is the reaching out with love to help another that is important, not the results. Reach out with love. That is all you need to do. Love one another. Pride can get in the way of forgiving. Pride is one manifestation of ego. Ego is transient, false self. You are not of your body, your brain, or or ego. You are greater than all of these. You need your ego to survive in the physical world, but you need only that part of the ego which process information. The rest - pride, arrogance, defensiveness, fear - is the worse than useless. The rest of the ego separates you from wisdom, joy, and love. You must transcend your ego and find your true self. The true self is permanent, deepest part of you. It is wise, loving, safe, and joyful.
Intellect is important in the physical world, but intuition is more important. You must learn through your own intuition. You have reversed reality and illusion. Reality is the recognition of your immortality, divinity, and timelessness. Illusion is your transient three-dimensional world. This reversal is damaging to you. You yearn for the illusion of security instead of the security of the wisdom and love. You yearn to be accepted when, in reality, you can never be rejected. Ego creates illusion and hides truth. Ego must be dissolved, then the truth can be seen. With love and understanding comes the perspective of infinite patience. What is your hurry? There is no time anyway;it only feels that way to you. When you are not experiencing the present, when you are absorbed in the past or worried about the future, you bring great heartache and grief to yourself. Time is an illusion, too. Even in the three-dimensional world, the future is only a system of probabilities. Why do you worry?
Therapy can be done to the self. Understanding is therapy. Love is the ultimate therapy. Therapists, teachers, and gurus can help, but only for a limited time. The direction is inward, and sooner or later the inward path must be trod alone. Although in reality you are never alone. Measure of time, if you must, in lessons learned, not in minutes or hours or years. You can cure yourself in five minutes if you come to the proper understanding or in fifty years. It is all the same thing.
The past must be remembered and then forgotten. Let it go. This is true for childhood traumas and past - life traumas. This is also true for attitudes, misconceptions, belief systems drummed into you, for all old thoughts. Indeed, for all thoughts. How can you see freshly and clearly with all those thoughts? What if you needed to learn something new with a fresh perspective? Thoughts create the illusion of separateness and difference.
Meditation and visualization will help you stop thinking so much and will help you begin the journey back. Healing will occur. You will begin to use your unused mind. You will see. You will understand and will grow wise. Then there will be peace. You have a relationship with yourself as well with others. You lived in many bodies and in many times. So ask your present self why it is so fearful. Why are you afraid to take reasonable risks? Are you afraid of your reputation, afraid of what others think? These fears are conditioned from childhood or before.
Ask yourself these questions - What's to lose? What is the worst that can happen? Am I content to live the rest of my life this way? Against a background of death, is this so risky?
In your growth, do not be afraid of evoking anger in other people. Anger is only a manifestation of their insecurity. Fearing this anger can hold you back. Anger would be merely stupid if it didn't create so much grief. Dissolve your own anger in love and forgiveness.
Do not let depression or anxiety hold you back in your growth. Depression is losing perspective, forgetting and taking things for granted. Sharpen your focus. Reset your values. Remember what should not be taken for granted. Shift your perspective, and remember what is important and what is less important. Get out of the rut. Remember to hope. Anxiety is being lost in the ego. It is losing one's boundaries. There is a dimly remembered loss of love, a wounding of pride, a loss of patience and peace. Remember, you are never alone.